Here is a hug first.
(((( Cybersista )))
Considering everything you said here about leaving the JW's, being in therapy for the post traumatic stress it has caused you. I'd say this nice J.W. woman was a great big TRIGGER..and ignited all those feelings.
When I first left the J.W.'s and then was disfellowshipped I was triggered by them every time I saw them. I wanted all of them out of my personal space..and my personal space was pretty big for a long time. I didn't even want a J.W. in the grocery store, hardware store, the big malls...when I was in there. I had a big personal space then, and if they were in the mall when I was..then I was uncomfortable, irritated and panicky and I wanted to leave. They hampered my thinking let alone my shopping. I needed to protect my psyche while I healed from them. My psyche mind was raw, tender and in pain..I didn't need them to keep popping up... and popping up unexpectantly was worse.
I can tolerate them now..and have finally moved to what I think is one of the final places of healing from the things that they taught me. I look at them now and feel sorry for most of them. What poor people, misguided just like I was. Some of them really are nice people too, sad but they are a product of what the WTS has fed them and led them to believe. Some of them will always and forever be Jehovahs Witnesses. A people so locked up in their thinking.
I think you did really well considering how upsetting to you she was.
Give it a couple days and I think you'll be okay.
Special K